We all have personality characteristics that make us who we are. I’m a fan of the Myer-Briggs MBTI personality test for understanding what makes up my unique personality.
Here’s a little more about what the MBTI test reveals:
The purpose of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI®) personality inventory is to make the theory of psychological types described by C. G. Jung understandable and useful in people’s lives. The essence of the theory is that much seemingly random variation in the behavior is actually quite orderly and consistent, being due to basic differences in the ways individuals prefer to use their perception and judgment.
I took this test back in college when I took Derek Lidow’s Entrepeneurial Leadership Class. The class taught me so much about entrepreneurship, but also about the key leadership ingredients that any company (or personal brand) needs in order to be successful.
The other day I was perusing the internet and came across a great site that summarized personality type strengths and weaknesses.I looked at my own weaknesses and realized, “Whoa, Rana. Alot of this stuff is so true about you. What can you do to positively affect these things that are becoming a hindrance to your success?”
My Personality type is ENFJ. In a nutshell, this is what that means:
Representing approximately 2 percent of all people, people with the ENFJ personality type tend to be very influential, often without making any conscious efforts to increase their influence. ENFJs are genuinely interested in other people and radiate authenticity, concern and altruism – not surprisingly, those who surround the ENFJ usually find them very inspiring and likeable.
MY ENFJ STRENGTHS INCLUDE:
- Very charismatic. ENFJ personalities are charming and popular – they instinctively know how to attract and keep people’s attention, as well as communicate with them effectively.
- Altruistic. ENFJs are warm and selfless, always willing to help other people. They are idealists, motivated by the idea of doing something good for the world.
- Skilled imitators. ENFJs find it very easy to notice what drives, motivates and worries other people, and are instinctively able to adjust their own manners and arguments accordingly.
- Natural leaders. ENFJ personalities do not seek to dominate or direct, but people are attracted to their charisma and eloquence – unsurprisingly, ENFJs usually end up being very popular and rarely have any difficulties getting to leadership positions.
- Tolerant. People with this personality type tend to be open-minded and accepting, willing to consider competing ideas as long as they do not contradict their inner principles. ENFJs can easily get along with most other types.
- Reliable. ENFJs work hard for causes they consider important – if their role excites and motivates them, an ENFJ can be very patient and reliable.
– taken from http://www.16personalities.com/enfj-personality
HOWEVER, AS AN ENFJ, THESE ARE ARE SOME OF MY WEAKNESSES:
- Sometimes too selfless. ENFJs may often take on too much work or get deeply involved in other people’s problems, trying too hard to not offend or disappoint anybody.
- Very idealistic. People with this personality type can often be too idealistic or even naïve, believing that everyone is good natured and cares about principles that are important to the ENFJ.
- Often too sensitive. Deep down, ENFJs are sensitive and emotional individuals who can get hurt and disappointed very easily. They may also worry too much about other people’s feelings and well-being.
- Vulnerable to criticism. ENFJ personalities have a strong inner core of principles and values, and they can get very hurt if someone criticizes them. ENFJs may also have difficulties reacting calmly to general criticism and negativity.
- May find it difficult to make tough decisions. Due to their altruism and sensitivity, ENFJs are likely to struggle with decisions involving hard choices – they may waver between different options, unable to stop thinking about all the possible consequences.
- Highly fluctuating self-esteem. ENFJs’ self-esteem depends on whether they are able to live up to their ideals and fulfill their goals, while at the same time making sure that everyone around them is happy. If the ENFJ’s ideas are being constantly criticized or they are unable to help people close to them, their self-confidence is likely to plummet.
THE ONE THING THAT IS HOLDING ME BACK FROM SUCCESS:
From this test, the one thing that affects me the most is that I can be very sensitive and vulnerable to criticism. I let what others think about me really weigh me down at times. Because I am a people-pleaser, I take it personally when I am not able to follow through on this. The amount of disappointment I feel when something doesn’t go as planned or how I want it to can be very crippling. However, I tend to keep everything in as not to disturb the energy of others that I am around. The same thing goes for responding to criticism. I don’t always take criticism lightly. I sometimes see what other people think of me (or what I’m doing) as a stab at my core values and persona. (This may sound silly, but it’s true. We ENFJs take pride is our core persona!).
HOW MY SENSITIVITY AND INABILITY TO HANDLE CRITICISM WILL HINDER MY SUCCESS:
The world is a mean, dark, and cold place. It’s not predictable and full of sunflowers and lillies. As an entrepreneur, I’ll need to build tough skin. At the same time, absorbing criticism can be a great mechanism and tool for self-growth and future success. Not all criticism is bad. Criticism can be used to become a better person (or tool, product, brand, etc.)
HERE ARE 10 RULES TO LIVE BY TO ACHIEVE ENFJ SUCCESS:
1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to involve yourself with others in situations where your input is valued.
2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power over you.
3. Express Your Feelings. Understand that your feelings are as important as others are in the overall situation. Without your feelings and needs being valued the best result is not realised, so value and speak to your own feelings as much as you value those of others.
4. Make Decisions. Don’t be afraid to have an opinion. You need to know show others the qualities and potentials you can see are worthy of action.
5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see why disagreement and discord indicate the differences between people, and use this as an opportunity to make your value judgements useful for growth, because that’s exactly what they are. Try not to feel responsible for another’s criticism, but try to hear it and understand the feelings and images it engenders within you. Then you may see a path not only to agreement but to a shared and truly valuable end.
6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see things differently than you see them. Most of your problems with other people are easier to deal with if you try to understand the other person’s perspective.
7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don’t stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you are an important focus. If you do not fulfil your own needs, how will continue to be effective and how will others know you are true to your beliefs?
8. Be Gentle in Your Expectations. It is easy for you to see the value in others, but stressing this too much can drive them away. Try to show that you understand their fears and limitations and lead them gently to see how you feel: lead them gently into understanding and love.
9. Assume the Best. Don’t distress yourself by feeling that your values are lost upon others – they are not. Perhaps it just has to sit with them too. Let the situation resolve itself and never stop believing that love is the true answer.
10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don’t assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as negative feedback. If you need feedback and don’t have any, ask for it.
WHY YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND YOUR WEAKNESSES:
Self-reflection is an important part of the success process for both the young and old. We have to start reflecting on what we know about ourselves and start making the active choice to combat the success- hindering components of ourselves. While the journey won’t be perfect, I’m sure if you try to do something different once each day (or even week), you’ll start to see results.
For me, I need to stop letting other’s thoughts and feelings about what I should be doing affect me so much. At the end of the day, I need to be doing what makes me happy. Being able to separate others’ opinions and my own sensitivity will be a struggle, but i am DETERMINED to work on this. I am DETERMINED to understand my weaknesses better.
If you have any ideas, tips, on advice on ways I can do this, please COMMENT or send me an email (email@example.com).
Just in case you wanted to know, here are some other famous ENFJs:
Abraham Lincoln, former U.S. president
What is the one thing that you KNOW is holding you back from success? PLEASE COMMENT and share your experiences below.
Rana Campbell is a branding expert and journalist. If you want to know more about me, click here or contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.